Communication and appointment prompts

Choose a useful format

The complete pack has five pages. Each conversation section is one page; you can print only the page you want. The short appointment sheet is one page with three prompts. All are in English. Read one prompt at your own pace; there is no completion target.

• Complete communication pack – A4 PDF (5 pages, 82 KB)
• Complete communication pack – US Letter PDF (5 pages, 82 KB)
• Short appointment sheet – A4 PDF (1 page, 73 KB)
• Short appointment sheet – US Letter PDF (1 page, 73 KB)

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For stress resources in other languages, including audio exercises in selected languages, see WHO: Doing What Matters in Times of Stress. These are WHO’s own resources, separate from our English communication prompts.

A little preparation for an appointment

You do not need a perfect explanation to ask for help. Choose one prompt, leave the rest, or show these words to a qualified professional.

An opening you could use

"I have been finding things difficult. I may need a moment to explain. Could we start with what is affecting me most?"

One concern I want to mention

What has changed, when did it begin, and how is everyday life affected? A few words or one example is enough. (S1)

One question I want answered

For example: "What are my options, and what might the next step involve?" You can ask about costs, waiting times and lower-cost local support.

What would help me communicate?

You might ask for more time, an interpreter, a quieter setting, written information or a trusted companion. Ask what is available. You can request time alone and ask about confidentiality and its limits. (S1)

Before we finish

"Could we write down the plan, when to review it, and whom I should contact if things get worse?"

Optional private notes only. A shared device or printer may expose them. Nothing needs to be completed or submitted before you seek help. See support and sources below.

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Starting a conversation, at your pace

Wanting connection and feeling anxious can happen together. These are words to adapt, not lines to perform. One small, welcome exchange can be enough for today.

1. Choose a manageable beginning

In a setting where conversation is welcome: "Hello, how are you finding the event?" A greeting may be enough. Let the other person choose whether to engage. (S2)

2. Follow what they actually say

"You mentioned a new project. What do you enjoy about it?" One ordinary question can give the conversation somewhere to go. You do not need to fill every silence. (S2, S3)

3. Give yourself a moment

"Give me a moment to think." Or: "Would it be all right to talk somewhere quieter?" Keep the communication and access supports you need.

4. Clarify or repair

"I may have misunderstood. Did you mean…?" Or: "That came out differently from what I intended. May I try again?" A conversation can include a correction.

5. Finish kindly

"It was good to talk. I am going to head off now." Either person may pause or leave. A short exchange does not have to become a friendship or date.

Choose steps that fit your circumstances. Eye contact, touch, speech and disclosure are not requirements. If a situation is unsafe, the useful next step may be leaving or seeking support.

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Dating, messages and the thoughts afterwards

You do not have to become fearless to consider a small step you want. Your comfort and the other person's freedom to choose both matter.

An invitation with room for an answer

"I have enjoyed talking. Would you like to meet again?" Keep the invitation clear. If the answer is no, you can say: "Thank you for letting me know." You do not need to persuade them.

A pace that feels right for you

"I would like to get to know you slowly." Or: "I would prefer to meet in a public place." Keep genuine safety arrangements, such as your own way home. These are not obstacles to overcome.

When a reply has not arrived

You may not know what the delay means. You can acknowledge the worry without deciding that your feared explanation is a fact. If useful, return to an ordinary activity for a while. This is an option, not a rule about how long anyone must wait.

When you replay the conversation

Try one brief, kind question: "What did I actually hear, and what am I guessing?" Then choose what needs attention now. You do not need a verdict on your worth or repeated checking until you feel certain. (S2)

Respect the ending

A clear refusal or request for space should be respected. No response is not agreement. You may also decide not to continue, without providing personal details.

These original examples are not tested dating techniques or a treatment programme. Adapt them to culture, disability, communication preferences and safety. You do not need a romantic relationship to deserve connection.

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When you or someone else needs support

We all need other people at times. Support can begin with ordinary kindness, while leaving room for privacy, limits and professional care.

Ask for the kind of support you want

To a trusted person: "I have been overthinking a conversation. Could you listen for a few minutes? I do not need you to work out what the other person thinks." You choose how much to share.

When someone opens up

"Thank you for telling me. Would listening, some company or help with a practical next step be useful?" Listen without pressing for details or trying to make them feel positive. (S3)

Care can include a limit

"I care about you. I can talk for a little while, and I may not know all the answers." Do not promise constant availability. You can help someone look for appropriate support with their agreement. (S3)

Ask a qualified professional

If anxiety persists, becomes overwhelming or limits everyday life, a local primary care clinician or qualified mental health professional can help assess what is happening and discuss options. (S2, S5)

Words for that conversation

"Fear before and after social situations is taking up a lot of my day. Could we discuss support or treatment?" You can use the appointment prompts in the appointment section above. (S1, S2)

If someone is unsafe or abusive, you do not have to disclose more, reconcile or practise approaching them. Choose a safer person or specialist support. Supportive conversation does not replace indicated treatment or emergency care.

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A short appointment prompt sheet

You do not need a perfect explanation to ask for help. Choose one prompt, leave the rest, or show these words to a qualified professional.

One concern I want to mention

What has changed, when did it begin, and how is everyday life affected? A few words or one example is enough. (S1)

One question I want answered

For example: "What are my options, and what might the next step involve?" You can ask about costs, waiting times and lower-cost local support.

Before we finish

"Could we write down the plan, when to review it, and whom I should contact if things get worse?"

You might ask for more time, an interpreter, a quieter setting, written information or a trusted companion. Ask what is available. You can request time alone and ask about confidentiality and its limits.

Nothing needs to be completed or submitted before you seek help. Keep any personal notes private.

Read all the appointment prompts

A companion for work, study and everyday needs

If you know what would help but find it hard to ask, try explaining a practical need when you feel anxious. It offers short requests, space to pause, privacy choices and a route to professional support. This is a separate free web guide; the four PDFs above are unchanged.

Support, sources and using these pages

By Dr Jonathan Haverkampf. Adult educational prompts. Sources checked and content approved 21 October 2026.

If help cannot wait

For immediate danger or inability to stay safe, contact local emergency services now. For urgent mental health needs, seek your local urgent clinical or crisis service. Do not wait for a routine appointment or a website reply.

Limits and local fit

These original prompts draw on the sources below. They are educational options, not a diagnostic questionnaire, validated intervention or complete treatment. No particular suggestion suits everyone. Professional services, costs and confidentiality rules vary by place.

Find support where you live

Independent sources

The starting words are original examples, not quotations or tested treatment scripts. Sources were checked on 21 October 2026; a source check is different from a source’s own clinical review date.

1. NIMH: Talking with a health care provider (S1). Preparing a concern or question, asking for clarification, and an optional trusted companion.
2. NHS: Social anxiety (S2). Smaller chosen steps, listening to what is said, and seeking care when anxiety affects daily life.
3. NHS: Helping others with mental health problems (S3). Listening, optional support, practical help, personal boundaries and professional support.
4. WHO: Doing What Matters in Times of Stress (S4). Link to official language and audio options for stress support.
5. NIMH: Social anxiety disorder (S5). Professional care for impairment, optional trusted support, compassion and proportionate description of pre/post-interaction anxiety.

The NHS social-anxiety page displays a review date of 17 May 2023, with its next review overdue. We also checked the NIMH guidance revised in 2025. Service and crisis arrangements in those sources apply to their own countries.

Related writing and guides

• Dating anxiety: practical communication and next steps
• Communication: related writing by Dr Jonathan Haverkampf
• All free resources

Sharing these resources

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