Getting through the wait during fertility treatment

A little space for today

Waiting for appointments, updates or results can take up more of your day than other people realise. Hope, fear, numbness or frustration may come and go. These ideas are for you, with or without a partner. Choose what fits. [1]

01 Make a small plan for the next update

Ask your clinic how and when it will contact you, who to call if an update is delayed, and who can answer questions afterwards. Follow its instructions about tests and treatment. If practical, choose a private place for the news and leave some breathing space afterwards.

If you feel unwell or have worrying physical symptoms during treatment, contact your clinic promptly; do not wait for the next update. For a medical emergency, use the emergency numbers below. [6]

02 Give today a little shape

Choose one ordinary anchor: a meal, a familiar programme, a manageable task or time with someone you trust. It need not make you feel better immediately. If repeated searching leaves you unsettled, try a pause or a planned time to look. Keep essential clinic messages available.

Different needs can sit side by side

One person may want to talk; another may need quiet or distraction. Ask: “Would listening, company, practical help or space feel best today?” Neither person has to be the only source of support. [4]

When the result arrives

You do not owe anyone an immediate announcement. Ask the clinic what the result means and when decisions are needed. Counselling can support you before, during or after treatment, including after a positive result, an unsuccessful cycle or a decision to pause or stop. [3]

Bring in more support

Ask your fertility team or GP about counselling if distress persists, feels severe or makes everyday life difficult. For peer support in Ireland, visit nisig.com. Elsewhere, ask your clinic about local groups. Check privacy arrangements before joining. [1]

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